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  1. One way or another, we made it through the holidays and survived 2017.
    Grateful to be here. 

    I am happy to be part of the Twisted Lipstick Comedy Show in Brooklyn on January 12, 2018.  It’s a very, very, funny line-up.  Now would be a good time to order your tickets on Eventbrite which means a bargain price.  Please mention my name when you do.

    I’m off from work for this week.  It is nice to sleep as much as I want and 
    not wake to an alarm.  I had a bunch of dreams, or one long one -- can’t tell. 

    My darling Luigi (my canine son who is in Heaven) appeared several times.  
    There were many scenes and people that are fuzzy in my memory.  I’m pretty sure my son and ex appeared.  What I remember more clearly was a scene where I was sitting on a step somewhere sort of outdoors and sort of indoors like a train station or something.  A man, who I may have not known at all or was slightly familiar with, sat down also and was trying to get with me.  It was all about him and his desires and how beautiful he found me, etc., etc.  It didn’t feel good.  Just as I often have felt in awake life, I began to feel punished by his desire.  He turned to face me and kept on talking without even trying to gauge if I wanted to be spoken to.  I responded to my discomfort/fear by getting up, saying, “I’m not comfortable.  You are too aggressive.  I don’t like this.”  And, I walked away.  He shouted out an apology as I left.

    As many of you know, I have been proud of my twelve and a half years of 
    being in my penis-free zone (3 of those years were while the ex was still in my apartment giving me little choice but to totally cut him off).  The dream gave me some confidence that I will walk away from bad.  I’ve known men who say, “I’m not a bad guy.”  What a selling point.  I can’t remember ever describing myself by saying, “I’m not a bad woman.”  If the best thing one can say about himself is that he isn’t bad, that’s bad.  And since there is soooo much bad out there, some disguised as good for a while as I’ve learned the hard way, it has just felt much safer and saner to stay away.  Since I’ve divorced, the few men I’ve felt attracted to over the years are married.  After my initial disappointment, I’d eventually thank God for not letting me have what I had thought I wanted.  What I needed was a lot of recovery and learning time.  That is what I got.

    You can't always get what you want
    You can't always get what you want
    You can't always get what you want
    But if you try sometimes, yeah
    You might find you get what you need! 

    Speaking of the era of the Rolling Stones, the videos of the last episode 
    of the What Were the ‘60s Really Like? show is on you tube.  Below is part 2 where I read my 3-minute slice of memoir from that time of my life.  I set it to start right at my part if you aren’t into seeing more.


    Oh, I forgot to mention, my button’s bigger than your button.

    Here’s hoping we survive 2018 and the cheeto’s button.

  2. 7 comments:

    1. I loved your performance! I remember so much of that time, as I was born exactly in 1960. Light years away from where we are today. I am so happy that people hearing your story reacted with shock and some disapproval of the nonsense you had experienced. We've come a long way, baby, and have a long way to go. Once you find your voice, you never really lose it. Thanks for your wonderful, serious, comical performance.

    2. Thank you so, so much, Liz!

    3. Melinda said...

      Thanks for sharing hon. Yes, Elizabeth, we have come a long way and have a long way to go. I was liberated and gay from the womb. But I didn't have a crush on my doctor..back then only men were doctors. At the young age of 5 or 6 I could not understand or ACCEPT the BS women were feeding me when it came to men. I am so glad I didn't. I got plenty of beatings from my mom for not "conforming" to her ways. I'd do it all is what liberated me from being a "slave and owning my own life!"

    4. They didn't make it easy for people to just be who they are. I am sorry that for you, it went to beatings. You made your parents grow.

    5. Melinda said...

      Indeed I did, Indeed they did too. Through forgiveness and love I a now able to care for my parents as "my children" and give them what they failed to give me. I am in a much better place because of this change in my life. Thanks for caring my dear friend. Love you!

    6. Mindy, your piece was so clear, so vivid. The choice to let the different characters speak in their own voices and your personality as a child, so pure and real. I loved the mirror episode! and the opening and ending with The Man.
      On an ironic note, I am rebelling against a long-term relationship with a married man, my ex-boss who fired me 25 years ago. It's really pretty shocking that I myself embody the contradictions in our culture.

    7. Katherine, I think many of us embody those contradictions. Ours is the generation where marriage was not the be all; we saw how it often was the end all.

      Thanks for your feedback on my piece.

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